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The 5 money lessons I had to unlearn to become my own boss
Published about 1 month ago • 4 min read
Six years ago, I walked away from a successful career in education to become my own boss.
But after a decade in teaching, and another ten years working in health and social care before that, I had a lot to rewire around work and money.
I had also grown up with very little money, so becoming the business and money coach I am today required me to unlearn almost everything I had been taught about earning more.
And that's exactly why I'm not your usual business and money coach.
Because the biggest shifts I've ever made had very little to do with business.
They had everything to do with becoming the woman who could make more money.
1. Overdelivering is not the move that makes you more money
As a teacher, I was taught to plan more than I could ever possibly need for a lesson because you never wanted the children or students to run out of things to learn.
Then I became my own boss and carried that habit straight into my business.
But overdelivering becomes a money leak when it comes from believing that what you are offering will never be enough.
You keep adding more because you don't trust the value of what is already there. The value you provide never feels enough compared with what you charge, which creates a mismatch in how you price your services and products.
It looks generous. But underneath it is someone who still doesn't believe she's enough.
2. Working harder does not automatically make you more money
When I became an assistant headteacher, my contract didn't include a set number of hours. I simply had to work whatever hours were required to get the job done.
That could mean 70-hour weeks and working at weekends. I never properly switched off because there was always more to do, and I was never able to stop thinking about my job.
I have had to redefine what working hard means.
Working hard now means developing the mindset of the woman who earns. It means making decisions for the goals I am going after rather than making them from the reality I am currently standing in.
The hardest work was never the hours.
It was becoming the woman capable of earning more without proving herself.
3. Being busy does not make me more important
When you work in teaching and ask a colleague how they are, the answer is almost always: "So busy."
It can become a competition over who is the busiest because busyness is treated as evidence of how important you are within the team.
Now I see that busy work doesn't get you anywhere. It just gets you flapping.
I have had to unlearn the belief that being constantly busy increases my value or worthiness.
What changed my life was stopping, reviewing what I was doing and putting more time into the things I was genuinely best at.
Because busy doesn't make you more money. The right decisions do.
4. I don't have to be the 'good girl' anymore
When I was a teacher, it was made very clear to me that my "too muchness" was not always considered professional enough.
My determination and enthusiasm for the students, the school and the work helped me become an assistant headteacher, but that same enthusiasm was sometimes seen as too much.
I learned to put a lid on it.
Now, my too muchness is one of the things that makes me stand out.
I give myself permission to release it.
And I can politely say, "Fuck off," when I want to because I'm my own boss.
Turns out, the version of me I was trying to tone down was the very version capable of creating more.
5. Wanting more doesn't make me greedy. It makes me generous.
I had to relearn this after growing up with very little, working in health and social care with adults who had very little and then working in a school where many of the children didn't have enough.
Wanting more money could feel greedy because I knew how many people needed so much.
But wanting more doesn't make me greedy. It makes me generous.
Self-awareness is everything here.
The more money I earn, the more time and money I have available to give to charities, people, organisations and projects that make a genuine difference.
I now work on projects with the local council supporting entrepreneurs, which I have much more capacity to do because I make more money.
I am also a trustee of an incredible charity called For Every Child I Wish, which supports children who don't have enough money for school uniform and the extra things that can help them feel more confident.
When I was younger, I was the recipient of support from a charity just like that.
Being able to give back now makes me incredibly grateful.
But if I didn't make more money, none of that would be possible.
Wanting more and making more allows me to give more.
Looking back now, none of these lessons were really about business.
They were about becoming the woman who earns more. The woman who doesn't make decisions from old conditioning. The woman who doesn't let panic make financial decisions. The woman who backs herself before the evidence arrives.
Because that's the real work.
Becoming my own boss was one of the best things I have ever done and one of the scariest.
I knew in my body that this was the right path for me.
But when I became self-employed and could no longer distract myself by being a workaholic, a tsunami of fear and doubt hit me. Suddenly, I was sitting by myself in the box room with nowhere to hide from it.
And I am so grateful that happened.
Without it, I would never have created the frameworks and teachings I now use to support women with their money, their business, and becoming the woman who earns more.
Which is exactly why I created The Woman Who Wins.
Because knowing what to do has never been the problem.
Becoming the woman who consistently makes decisions that create more money is.
Inside you'll find the exact tools, activations and teachings I use to help women stop making money decisions from old conditioning and start making them as the woman they're becoming.
It's just £22.
So don't spend three days negotiating with yourself over £22 while telling yourself you want to become a woman who makes bigger, faster and more certain decisions.
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