It was suggested that I lose 11lbs today by a male nurse while getting my free NHS 40+ health check.

My BMI is 26.2 and he said:

“Just lose around 5kg (about 11lbs) and you’ll come within the healthy weight range.”

Now welcome to the part where I impart some very useful facts for you…

What we now know as BMI was developed by Adolphe Quetelet in the 1830s as part of his work studying the characteristics of the “average man”.

It was designed to study populations. Not individual health.

It was later popularised in the 1970s by Ancel Keys, who also saw its usefulness primarily as a population-level research tool.

So as I sat there, knowing I have genuinely never felt hotter in all my 41 years of life, I wanted to laugh at how ridiculous it felt that a generalised calculation based on the “average man” was being used to tell a curvy, 5ft woman what she should weigh.

And the best bit?

Those words literally ran off me.

They didn’t impact me.
They didn’t make me judge myself.
They didn’t change how I saw myself.

Because at my core, I know how I feel about myself.

I feel fucking epic.

About my body.
About my goals.
About my skills and abilities as a coach.
About the woman I am becoming.

And that reminded me of something I want every woman I work with to understand:

What someone else says you should do with your body, your mind, your life or your business does not get to become your truth.

What matters is what you say about you.

Because the way you see yourself changes the way you move through the world.

When you believe you’re brilliant, you stop hiding it.

You ask for more.
You take the opportunity.
You charge the money.
You make the move.
You walk into rooms expecting to belong there.

And yes, that changes what becomes available to you.

Opportunities are attracted to you.
Wins are attracted to you.
Money is attracted to you.

And before your doubt pipes up and tells you that sounds arrogant, here’s my definition of arrogance:

Arrogance is stepping on other people to make yourself look bigger.

Confidence is knowing you’re brilliant and still wanting brilliant people to rise with you.

There is nothing arrogant about thinking highly of yourself.

There is nothing arrogant about wanting more.

There is nothing arrogant about deciding that somebody else’s measurement, opinion or expectation doesn’t get to define you.

And when you become the woman who wins with that kind of confidence?

A hell of a lot more becomes inevitable.

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Claire 💛
​Business & Money Coach
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